Whaddya Mean, “Are You a Missionary?”

soldierEver since I started talking about my recent Czech mission, a number of brothers- and sisters-in-blogging have asked the same question: “Are you a missionary?”

I know what they mean: am I a long-term evangelist. Nope; the trip was only two weeks long (though I’ve returned a few times).

But what I wanted to say (without being rude – I love y’all) was, “Aren’t we all missionaries?”

(Most people, including the folks who have asked me this question, would totally agree with what I’m saying. But that doesn’t mean we can’t discuss it again!)

My church teaches variations of this theme: there’s a certain danger in treating our earthly residence as “home”. It’s the danger of mistaking our true situation. We are all behind enemy lines; none of us are home yet. It’s thinking of this earth as “home” that gets our focus off of heaven; it’s thinking of our personal comfort zone as “home” that causes us to miss opportunities to share the Gospel with those in our workplace, our school, or our street.

I’m as bad as anyone else. My focus are constantly on earthly goals, so much so that I have a hard time dreaming about anything else.

But when I consider thousands of people plunging daily into hell, well, it becomes a burr in my shoe. Hopefully more.

Because it’s actually harder to witness in America, precisely because of the fact that I live here.

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When 1 Samuel 16:7 Rescues a Disappointing Life

crossingI’m not where I hoped to be.

That’s a common phrase amongst us, but there are seasons that echo it louder than others.

It used to be that when I looked around and saw others living larger lives than mine, I’d console myself with the knowledge that they were older than I. You’re young. Just give it a few more years, I’d say. Then I’ll be there.

Didn’t happen.

Well, I overstate. Getting a bachelor’s degree and being almost out of debt from it is an elephantine blessing. I could certainly be in worse health. I’m not desperately miserable at work. The list goes on. I’ve known for a while that there will always be someone better off, and that chasing that is chasing after the wind.

But the battle rose to a new pitch recently when I took another look around at the powerful men surrounding me and realized with a start…they’re all my age.

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Take Christmas Back From Your Pain

15542081_10154850484279695_2005805105793914489_nThis weekend, I put up my first Christmas tree. It was a three-foot-tall noble fir Charlie Brown tree, and it got just a simple arrangement of bulbs, lights, and miniature star.

And yes, that’s totally a Darth Vader ornament. Impulse buy. Be jealous.

I’ve never put up a tree before. Part of the reason was living alone, who else was gonna see it, etc. But part of it was my typical attitude towards Christmas. It wasn’t a holiday I’ve particularly looked forward to. Not for a while.

It was on a December 27 that I received news of my parents’ divorce. I don’t blame anyone anymore (because forgiveness doesn’t let you); I don’t even blame God; I just kinda blame life. But the fact remains that I haven’t gotten into the Christmas spirit much, either.

Some of you who have faced loss this time of year, or taken hits to that precious refuge of family, can relate. It can be frustrating to feel pressured into joyfulness by the radio stations. A friend of mine is bracing for her first Christmas without her father, a good man who passed on last February. That one carol comes on telling us From now on our troubles will be miiiiiles awaaaay and we’re all like…

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Because that’s TOTALLY what Jesus said in John 16:33, right? Well, not really.

So naturally, Christmas has not been my favorite time of year for a while.

But what does the rest of John 16:33 say?

In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world. (John 16:33b)

We’ve got a game-changer here. That’s where God wanted to take me this Christmas.

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Singles Training #4: How to View Others

I have two good friends who recently got engaged to someone after only three or four months of dating.

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I know – every Courtship Alarm went off in your head as you read that. Only three months? They can’t do that!!! Your friends must be impulsive and foolish. Not really. I know them too well. Both are strong believers, grounded in Scripture, and so are their chosen partners (immensely so). Yes, wisdom often makes longer engagement waits a wise choice. But God isn’t limited by that. There are times he surprises us.

However…I’ve known other couples who did worry me. They met, they courted swiftly, and people around them had concerns about their readiness for matrimony and about their familiarity with the other person.

And when they raised their concerns, the couple would respond with some variation on a familiar theme: “It’s not your business. It’s between us and God.”

Or perhaps it’s just the classic tendency of a happy couple to retreat in their own little world. We all know the pain of finding ourselves on a friend’s back-burner. You often see it in married couples, and you see it in many dating relationships. Perhaps you’ve done it yourself. I remember a previous relationship where I actually caught myself thinking, “Now it’s my turn to shut other people out.” Once we find someone who really gets us, it’s amazing how expendable everyone else suddenly looks.

I’m making an assumption as I write. I’m assuming that as we singles train for our future marriage, we’re training with our eyes on God. We’re seeking what he wants for us, revealed through Scripture, believing that it’s best, and choosing even in our dating relationships to practice as many marriage principles as properly apply.

So what if Scripture led us to train – mind-blowing as it seems – as if marriage isn’t about us?

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