Over the years, we have all received guidance on how to life the Christian single life.
Some of it has been good. Some of it never should have seen the light of day. And there is a great deal, I am growing to suspect, that has yet to be said at all – and very much needs to be.
We’ve had about twenty years to reflect on it all, and try it out on the streets, since the movement began. I’ve got a pretty firm grasp on how I feel about it at this point, but then again, the quickest way to be wrong is to limit yourself to just your opinion.
So, since you, my esteemed readership, includes some Christian singles, I wanted to ask for your thoughts in the comments section. (I would say “penny for your thoughts” but I’m broke.)
We can perhaps boil it down to three questions:
1. What singleness advice, teaching, or guidance have you received that was good? What was encouraging, edifying, or practical?
2. What singleness guidance was…not so good? And why?
3. Is there anything that has been left unsaid to the Christian celibate?
A few constraints:
- You needn’t answer all three.
- These are broad questions, so try limiting yourself to the top one or three things that occur to you.
- I already hear some of you rubbing your hands together with irritated glee at #2, so before we pounce, a quick word: let’s be gracious. I know we’ve all gotten advice in the church foyer that drives us nuts. Our whole situation is notorious for that. But for the most part, the people giving us that advice are only trying to help. Let’s proceed from a place of gratitude for their heart for us, and season our words with that gratitude.
- Feel free to repeat what someone else has said. Maybe put your own twist on it, but I do see value in discovering how certain things are weighted.
- Married units, feel free to barge in. Your experiences from your own single years can still be valuable, and you still might have strong feelings about what the singles you know should be hearing.
The comment section is yours. I’m eager to hear your thoughts.