We’ve all been there. We look at someone else’s life, we see an issue that might need speaking to, and we experience an urge to be the one to bring it up – “for their own good”, of course.
I’ve learned to stifle these urges, for the most part.
One of the most encouraging possible relational truths is that whatever correction is needed in a person’s life, God is already on top of it. He hasn’t missed it; he doesn’t need to be notified. In fact, he saw it millennia before it came up.
Sometimes God doesn’t even use a human speaker. I’ve lost track of the number of times I’ve kept my mouth shut about someone else’s rough edges and, months or years later, heard the person speak of working on that very matter themselves, without any involvement from me. God laid it their heart all on his own.
And that’s when I’m right. Sometimes I’m wrong about what I’m seeing. Or, what I’m seeing is the result of deeply rooted habits or wounds that would change the conversation entirely if I knew them.
If the person doesn’t seem to be changing, there are a few possible explanations:
1) God is waiting for a moment when they’re ready to hear correction;
2) God is grooming the right speaker with the right words;
3) The person isn’t listening to God;
4) Change is slow. (Or has change been fast with you? I’m afraid it hasn’t been with me.)
Whatever the case, I find I’m rarely the person God uses – or nearly not as often as I’d volunteer myself.
Some of that’s just simple math. If we assume every person has twenty mature, Scripturally literate people in their lives that they trust to speak difficult truth, just how many times should I expect to be the one out of twenty?
It’s also worth mentioning that I’m often just ooking to eliminate an inconvenience on myself (the ripple effects of their behavior) rather than honestly seeking to help.
So I don’t say much anymore. Instead, I trust God to have eyes to spot what’s important. Like a pair of colored glasses, he sees things I don’t. And what I do see, he sees differently.
Besides, don’t I have enough sanctification to work on in my own life?
Even a fool is considered wise when he keeps silent, discerning when he seals his lips. (Prov. 17:28)
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