4 Ways to Travel-Proof Your Child’s Faith

travelproofAs a youth worker with ten years of experience, I’ve known the pain of watching my students lose their faith.

Sometimes it’s on them; they just decide it’s more interesting to live the way they want. But sometimes the loss looks more akin to theft, being snatched away by the brutal realities of life after high school. They “get out into the world” and quickly find themselves mired in a slog of doubt, and the strength needed to wade through is rare.

As I’ve prayed over and grieved these friends, I’ve seen their struggles fall into categories. This is encouraging, as naming the battleground is half the battle. These are categories that many youth groups address with all their might, but there simply is no substitute for a parent’s influence.

I humbly offer some brief thoughts on these categories.

1. People

Christians can be scummy and atheists aren’t always villains.

This really throws some young people. “If the Bible isn’t making a difference in these people’s lives,” they wonder, “how valid can it be?” It’s a good question. And it doubles in intensity when they’re hurt directly by believers’ failures, as opposed to simply witnessing them. Even being raised in a good church does not always mute this confusion.

(EDIT: The first comment on this article proves that quite well. Don’t get defensive about it. Absorb it, consider it graciously, and let it stand a lesson to all of us.)

Teach your kids to anticipate this. The Bible has always taught that those who truly follow Christ’s commands are a remnant. Jesus’ harshest words were reserved for those who claimed to represent his Father. Too many Christians attend churches that emphasize feel-good preaching, or hate, or empty religion. Others treat their faith as more of an identity (like their blood type) or a cause (like animal advocacy) than a daily reality that’s changing them.

All religions are prone to this. None of it means Jesus isn’t real. It just means that sin is – just like Jesus said.


2. Doubt

College will expose young people to pockets of resistance to Christianity. Classes, cliques, movements, organizations, sometimes entire institutions. High school simply doesn’t have these “clubhouses”. It’s a jarring transition. The mocking intellectual challenges grate like a sandstorm.

“Look at all these religions. What makes yours different?”

“This stuff got disproven decades ago. Didn’t you get the memo?”

“I don’t need a two-thousand-year-old book to be a good person.”

“I’m sick of how Christianity has dragged the world down. Take it somewhere else.”

Of course, none of these are grounded in any truth; the “smart people” argument has been around since Paul’s time (Acts 17). But that’s an easy thing to say, and not so much to hear, when that “logic” forms the walls and ceiling of your suddenly isolated child’s daily life.

There are many apologetics resources you can offer your children while they’re still at home. The works of C.S. Lewis (Mere Christianity) are a classic in this regard and have been a great help to me, as have those of Lee Strobel (The Case for Faith, The Case for Christ). Do some research; equip your students to defend their faith.


3. Suffering

I recently found an old collection of CD’s (remember those?) and found myself jamming out to Pillar’s “Fireproof”. It evoked something from youth – how Christian music had worked to harness the natural rebelliousness of teenagers, turning it against the world and making Christianity “cool”.

I will never change my mind
Try to torch me and you’ll find
You can’t turn me or deter me
No matter how you try
You can’t burn me

Twenty years later, my generation’s faith is in tatters.

Obviously, something about that approach came up way short. It hit me that while they worked hard to steel us against persecution, I don’t remember being prepared for suffering.

I want to take my shoes off here as I tell you that your child will experience pain, and that some of it will be nasty, unfair, and life-altering. The young man who returns from war unable to walk or socialize. The young woman who endures assault. For others, it might “merely” be betrayal, rejection, or physical malady. Yet in one form or another, it will come.

You’ve found this to be true in your own lives, have you not?

When the blows land on our kids, it saps their enthusiasm for lyrics like It’s my time to rise almost instantly. “Why am I fighting the world when God won’t even fight for me?” Disillusionment quickly follows. My faith survived my twenties and even I am still brushing off cobwebs of resentment.

Pain will come. It’s part and parcel of the Christian life. It’s actually a privilege (Philippians 1:29). Please, I beg you, guard your children against false teachings of how we can escape all suffering. Not even Jesus got that (Hebrews 2:10). You can either give your child a theology of suffering gradually, at home, within reach of your guidance and reassurance; or you can let adulthood teach them all at once, in some other state, and hope that someone steps in to filter it Biblically. I know what I’d choose.


4. Purpose

High school graduation tends to leave young Christians perched on the edge of an anticipatory high – “God has an amazing plan for your life!” – only to fall off a cliff of monotony. “Amazing plan” looks like jumping between dead-end jobs, no money for school, and Christian friends replaced by poor influences? For students who grew up on stories of Asian missionaries whose lives seem to display a lot more providence, the letdown is real.

Your children need to know that just because it doesn’t look all gilded and exotic doesn’t mean they’re outside the kingdom! The amazing in God’s kingdom boils down to two travel-proof things: finding joy in Christ, and sharing his Gospel. As long as unbelievers work at the mall, God will send missionaries there. And being a cog in God’s rescue of an unbeliever is exciting.

13 thoughts on “4 Ways to Travel-Proof Your Child’s Faith

  1. “As long as unbelievers are working at the mall, God will be sending missionaries there” And you’ll complain to management to try and get me fired if I am not your captive audience, when I am supposed to be earning a living. And then you’ll leave a tract as a tip.

    This is what your kind does, this is what your kind has been doing. There’s a big reason why every waiter in Memphis tries to call in sick or take vacation when the church convention comes to town. There’s a big reason when nobody wants to serve your church group when they come into the restaurant.

    And then you cry persecution.


  2. We all tend to blame Jesus, when we suffer….when things go wrong. I think that most of us have forgotten that we were the ones who made the choice to live this way, back in the Garden of Eden.


  3. As a mum with my kids at home I know this is the time in their lives when it’s ‘easy’ for their faith walk, being brought to church and youth clubs each week by us, their parents. I agree that encouraging and modelling a love for a relationship with Jesus is the real future proofing they need. Worn out knees with prayer too!

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  4. Brandon, what makes you believe there is a God at all? This story of salvation, resurrection and spending the rest of eternity in Heaven with God and the angels sounds pretty arrogant to me. I think God exists in the minds of believers because they think they are special as the miracle of resurrection awaits them. Of course this is delusional. Everything dies. GROG


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